Perfection Is Imperfect


Problems stem from our imperfect perceptions of life. We have a belief, and even if it doesn’t work we blame ourselves, not the idea behind it. We are not taught to adjust and refine our values as we gain new insight into how the world really works. The child lives in its ideals and fantasy. When love is present, the child wants to be perfect, it strives to please its parents; it wants to do the “right” thing.” Children who don’t receive love and approval when things go wrong, when they don’t win or come out on top, these children lose faith in their abilities to make things happen. They begin to only value their successes and this is such a terrible mistake, since most wisdom comes from what we do wrong, or the surprises we encounter along the way. Nothing is a mistake if you learn from it. When you try to make a perfect decision, the fear of making the wrong one will paralyze you. Perfection creates dissatisfaction and unhappiness around anything that’s not the way you imagined it should be.  What you need to understand is that what’s important is the experience and what you do with it. If you get it wrong so what? That’s how you learn. Take apart the experience and decide what you want to keep and what you need to change. Once you identify a problem, you can fix it. When it stays lost in a feeling of inadequacy, nothing happens.

Perfection is something we should never reach; that would mean we have arrived at the end of the road. Life is an on-going process and our beliefs and wisdom gets refined as we learn and grow. Embracing perfection is not entirely your fault, society is hooked on it and the images the collective has chosen to represent the ideal; whatever you do, don’t think that’s what you should be. What will really make you happy is being unique and different. And you’ll never discover your own originality when you are invested in becoming something you are not. The danger of following an image is that when you don’t have any qualities that fit it, you may just give up, and the world will be deprived of what makes you special. Albert Einstein, said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”  So discover who you are, stop judging yourself based on what others do. Listen to yourself; believe in yourself, and take a risk for your dreams.

Linda Joyce - Life Coaching - Perfection is Imperfect